Imagine you had a friend that was building a business or starting a new project and consistently failed to complete tasks and everything he or she told you they would do. This friend couldn’t find the time to get their website built, or domain purchased. This friend was too busy to write the next chapter of their book or the blog they’ve been telling you about for 6 months.
This friend was working too hard on unimportant things and completely forgot to put their digital press kit together last year… and yet they call you every week complaining about their financial stress and frustration.
Now...I am not psychic, but I can bet money that it wouldn’t take long before you sat them down for a serious talk about the future of your friendship and your accountability promise to each other. The old saying is that birds of a feather flock together, and most of us have plans to soar. Though, sometimes rather than have the honest conversation with our friends, we cut the excuse makers off or transition into other social circles with more like minded associates. For some reason, this is very easy and we tend to move on with no problem because we recognize the need to drop dead weight. However, we don’t do the same when WE are as guilty of the same behaviors of said friend we had to “cut off”.
For this blog post, I want to ask why, then, do you continue to accept these and other excuses from yourself? Why is your lack of business development allowed to continue, even when you know how important certain tasks are to your future growth and financial security?
Now, before you go thinking I’m being way too hard on you, know this: we all struggle with this very issue. We all put our clients, our family, our friends, and even the neighbor we barely know before ourselves. But I’m giving you permission right now to stop doing that, and start treating yourself as the VIP you really are.
It’s time to put your business growth ahead of that of your clients and low level of living – in stress, in lack, in confusion, in disarray etc. etc.
Only by doing that will you be able to reach a larger audience, help more people, and achieve the goals you’ve set for yourself to make all of the strain and struggle worth it in the end. I know… easier said the done right? Truthfully NO. You have to choose and decide to make the time and the task a priority and a habit.
The simplest way to do this is to make appointments with yourself. That hour or two you have free on Thursday afternoon to watch Scandal, or shop online it the perfect time.
Pick 60 minutes a day and don’t book a anything in that spot. Book yourself. Mark it on your calendar, and treat it as an unbreakable appointment, just as you would an appointment with a client or your doctor or your accountant.
Spend the time working on the things that are important to the continued growth of your business.
Basically, do those things you tell your friends to do—the things your influential circle and mentor is advising. Don’t create the habit of pushing tasks aside for “later” or “after other tasks are done.
Elevate yourself to VIP status and start putting yourself first.
Your business will thank you for it and your bank account will surely benefit. If you need help! Sign up for one of our FREE coaching discovery calls and subscribe to our free resource newsletter.
Love & Light,
This week, I launched my very own online radio station "Process Pro Radio" and we kicked off the week with a deep discussion on procrastination that blew my mind! So, I was on fire with a reason to write a new blog post capturing the feedback and revelations that resulted from a number of conversations that took place LIVE on air. (If you'd like to tune in visit Anchor.FM/NuEpps for the complete show broadcast, or subscribe to the Process Pro Podcast on iTunes, Google Play Music, Overcast, or Podcast Players).
To start, I wanted to discuss my own personal journey with procrastination and the guilt plus the shame that usually resulted when I didn't meet the mark. On the show, I started the discussion being transparent about my own struggles with procrastination and the underlying reasons that I later was able to identify. To my surprise, callers from all over the world (US & UK) called in to offer gems of knowlege that evolved the conversation in some rich ways that inspired me to provide show notes for the broadcast because the info was AMAZING! In fact, it was SOOOOOOO good, that I have provided a mini re-cap that I hope will bless you the way it blessed and elevated me. AND, if you want to chime in and continue talking, download the Anchor APP and call in to my station to leave a comment to be featured on the podcast.
Show Focus 1: Procrastination can be a type of avoidance behavior, where those who habitually feel powerless take back personal power. "They do it when they WANT to instead of when they NEED to."
Show Focus 2: Get Rid of Guilt & Shame - Along with avoidance-based procrastination unfortunately goes its offshoots—guilt and shame. We subconsciously sometimes hear the voices of our adversaries telling us that we “blew it again”, “can’t be depended on”; even all-or-nothing statements like “you’re a complete failure” (usually accompanied by comparisons to a perfect sibling or peer)—long after we’ve grown up and supposedly left all childhood voices behind. But the TRUTH is that guilt and shame only hinder working on becoming the person we were born to be. But HOW do we stop doing this? We can replace those self inflected wounds with phrases based in reality. For example, instead of saying to yourself, “I did it again. I’m a complete screw-up!” try stating just the facts. (“I spent an hour of `me’ time. Now it’s time to put that aside and go to work.”)
Show Focus 3: Keep an eye out for “time stealers”—small tasks that nibble away minutes and eventually hours from our days. These usually turn out to be tasks such as checking email, checking Facebook, answering the telephone while you’re working, answering the door, getting up to make a cup of coffee… It doesn’t matter what you stop working to do: Record it! Keep a log for a few days, and see where you are spending too much time on one particular distraction (for example, you may discover you actually get up to make six or seven cups of tea or coffee during the day, when you were sure it was only three or four).
Repetitive behaviors can become procrastination habits. Tame them by setting a limit to how many times per day you can do them.
Show Focus 4: Ask Yourself What’s Really Going On!!! You can’t change a habit until you understand it. Next time you find yourself procrastinating, stop and ask yourself: “What is really going on here?”
Try to figure out if you’re simply daunted by the thought of starting a task you find difficult, or you simply hate that particular task, or you’re angry because you have to work late—or whatever is really behind the procrastination.
I could go on and on, but because we went so deep with this topic you have to listen and hear it for yourself! So, Download the Anchor App and listen to the past episodes and call in to share you thoughts! You can also share your thoughts here in the comments and I will share them on the show.
Just remember, procrastination is JUST a habit that can be broken with simple routine, a plan of action, a list, and forgiveness of self.
Peace & Blessings,
Nu Epps, Your Process Pro & Coach
Nu Epps, Author
Nu shares tips, tricks, and techniques to transform your mind, empower your creativity, and improve your business processes to keep you profitable and sane in your small business.