This week, I launched my very own online radio station "Process Pro Radio" and we kicked off the week with a deep discussion on procrastination that blew my mind! So, I was on fire with a reason to write a new blog post capturing the feedback and revelations that resulted from a number of conversations that took place LIVE on air. (If you'd like to tune in visit Anchor.FM/NuEpps for the complete show broadcast, or subscribe to the Process Pro Podcast on iTunes, Google Play Music, Overcast, or Podcast Players).
To start, I wanted to discuss my own personal journey with procrastination and the guilt plus the shame that usually resulted when I didn't meet the mark. On the show, I started the discussion being transparent about my own struggles with procrastination and the underlying reasons that I later was able to identify. To my surprise, callers from all over the world (US & UK) called in to offer gems of knowlege that evolved the conversation in some rich ways that inspired me to provide show notes for the broadcast because the info was AMAZING! In fact, it was SOOOOOOO good, that I have provided a mini re-cap that I hope will bless you the way it blessed and elevated me. AND, if you want to chime in and continue talking, download the Anchor APP and call in to my station to leave a comment to be featured on the podcast.
Show Focus 1: Procrastination can be a type of avoidance behavior, where those who habitually feel powerless take back personal power. "They do it when they WANT to instead of when they NEED to."
Show Focus 2: Get Rid of Guilt & Shame - Along with avoidance-based procrastination unfortunately goes its offshoots—guilt and shame. We subconsciously sometimes hear the voices of our adversaries telling us that we “blew it again”, “can’t be depended on”; even all-or-nothing statements like “you’re a complete failure” (usually accompanied by comparisons to a perfect sibling or peer)—long after we’ve grown up and supposedly left all childhood voices behind. But the TRUTH is that guilt and shame only hinder working on becoming the person we were born to be. But HOW do we stop doing this? We can replace those self inflected wounds with phrases based in reality. For example, instead of saying to yourself, “I did it again. I’m a complete screw-up!” try stating just the facts. (“I spent an hour of `me’ time. Now it’s time to put that aside and go to work.”)
Show Focus 3: Keep an eye out for “time stealers”—small tasks that nibble away minutes and eventually hours from our days. These usually turn out to be tasks such as checking email, checking Facebook, answering the telephone while you’re working, answering the door, getting up to make a cup of coffee… It doesn’t matter what you stop working to do: Record it! Keep a log for a few days, and see where you are spending too much time on one particular distraction (for example, you may discover you actually get up to make six or seven cups of tea or coffee during the day, when you were sure it was only three or four).
Repetitive behaviors can become procrastination habits. Tame them by setting a limit to how many times per day you can do them.
Show Focus 4: Ask Yourself What’s Really Going On!!! You can’t change a habit until you understand it. Next time you find yourself procrastinating, stop and ask yourself: “What is really going on here?”
Try to figure out if you’re simply daunted by the thought of starting a task you find difficult, or you simply hate that particular task, or you’re angry because you have to work late—or whatever is really behind the procrastination.
I could go on and on, but because we went so deep with this topic you have to listen and hear it for yourself! So, Download the Anchor App and listen to the past episodes and call in to share you thoughts! You can also share your thoughts here in the comments and I will share them on the show.
Just remember, procrastination is JUST a habit that can be broken with simple routine, a plan of action, a list, and forgiveness of self.
Peace & Blessings,
Nu Epps, Your Process Pro & Coach
What do super-successful people and small business owners all have in common?
Money? Experience? Talent? Extraordinary Skill? Great Contacts? Drive?
Although all of these things can definitely help efforts, neither is a prerequisite for success. After all, no one is born with experience or skills, and plenty of successful people lack drive. So, I’ve come to the conclusion that it has to be the their “why.”
I’m sure the answer would shock many of us. I’m sure it would be connected to a greater good. Their success could be the product of a tragic scenario. The thought of it all is intriguing and I wanted to make sure that when I became obsessed with the “How” questions (How did “they” do it? How did “they” overcome. How did “they” get funding.) I needed to know “WHY.”
Why - led me personally down this path of exploration of self to figure out how I became sucked into my behaviors, my traditions, my habits good or bad. I wanted to know why my “Whys” weren’t generating success and coins!
The more I questioned, the more many things became crystal clear to me and I got closer and closer to my understanding of my motivation, my de-railers, my strongholds, my weaknesses, and my strengths in my business and in my life. I mean seriously... ask yourself these questions:
The “why” is what ultimately drives us to success, but here’s the thing: it’s different for everyone. YOUR why is not MY why, and MY why is not YOUR why. It’s a deeply personal choice that can have great meaning…or not.
For example, a survivor of an abusive domestic relationship might happily spend 60 or 70 hours each and every week mentoring other victims of abuse, or counseling couples on how to break the cycle. For that person, the “why” is a strong desire to prevent others from suffering in the same way, and to educate a population of people about the impact it has on the mental, physical, and emotional being.
A mother of small children may be saddened at the thought of sending her kids to daycare just so she can go to work to (barely) pay for it. Her “why” is the drive to spend as much time with her kids as she can, while still supporting her family.
A new college graduate and start up entrepreneur might resist taking the same path their parents took, working for a corporation for 40 years, only to retire and find themselves with barely enough to live on. Instead, they dream of having the income (and the time) to see the world while they are still young without major family responsibilities.
The why matters and will guide you on your quest to figure out exactly what it is you’re meant to do and what will keep you motivated and inspired to do it well.
So what’s your big “why”? It might be the freedom to travel, the option to spend time with your family, the ability to take weeks off at a time to care for a sick family member, or even to earn enough money to support a charity that’s close to your heart.
Whatever it is, your “why” is the driving force behind every action you take. When you’re deciding whether or not to start a business, or take on a new client, ask yourself if it’s aligned with your “why.” When you’re setting goals for the year, ask yourself if those goals are moving you closer or further from your big why. Thinking of branching out into a new business venture?
Make sure it’s in alignment with your big why, and success is suddenly much more attainable.
If you need help figuring it out, set up a free discovery call with me and let’s explore your natural gifts and calling. You know what you want and asking yourself the right questions will lead you down a path of clarity, purpose, and joy. Why not...
When you think about the highest earning businesses, or amazingly successful concepts, people like Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, and Oprah Winfrey come to mind. But what characteristics about them stand out? Each one has a number of soft and tangible skills, but each of us can easily identify their charisma, experience, and expertise at the top of the list that sets them apart. But guess what, none of that is what got them where they are now.
In fact, while skill and personality do help attract and keep an audience, there’s one thing that is absolutely critical to success, and you can’t even see it. It’s YOUR MINDSET!
It’s true. In everything you do, whether in business or in life, your mindset is the determining factor when it comes to your success. Your entrepreneurial plans are no different. Without the right mindset, you will forever be attracting and working with clients who—while deserving and lovely—are less than your ideal when it comes to their ability to pay what you need to provide for your basic needs.
So before you can realize your dreams of four- or five-figure clients, you have to do some internal work. You have to make some changes to your own mindset, to be more in line with what the top earners in your industry already do and feel.
1. Mute Your Complaints
One thing charismatic and personable people have in common is a good attitude. Think about it; you’ll never see Julia Roberts, Steve Harvey, Taraji P. Henson, Tony Robbins or Bishop T.D. Jakes complaining about how the kids are sick, “again!” or that the cable repair guy is 40 minutes late, or even that the car blew a tire.
Instead, you see their expressions of gratitude in everything. If the kids are sick, they’re grateful to have a business that allows them to stay home and care for them. If the cable guy is late, they’re grateful to have 40 extra minutes to inspire others instead of watch television or troll social media posts. And, if the car died in the middle of running a week’s worth of errands, they’re happy to have found a mechanic who does great work at a reasonable price.
If you find yourself complaining—even in your head—turn your attitude around. There’s nearly always something to be grateful for, even in the worst situations. And when you can rethink and revise your attitude for the better, you’ll not only be happier, but you’ll attract a better audience, too.
2. Be Bold & Confident
Here’s something else successful people have in common: CONFIDENCE. They believe in what they do. They believe in their ability to help others achieve the same thing. They walk on stage or into a meeting filled with the knowledge that what they are about to say will change the lives of those who are listening. It’s not cocky or arrogant, it’s just confidence. And if you don’t have it yet, you can take steps to increase it.
Start by asking yourself, in any new or uncomfortable situation, “What if this goes well and my life is changed for the better?” And in worst-case scenarios, resolve what you have control over, and let the rest go. If you fail, stand tall and know that you are strong enough to experience defeat and not die. Learn from it. Study it, and boldly work to improve yourself so it never happens exactly like that again.
Often times your confidence is contagious and others are empowered because of your efforts.
3. Try & Don’t Quit
The best way to re-program your mind is to give it new fuel. Rather than speak what “Can’t Be, Won’t Be, or is Too Hard to Be Possible... speak “ I can. I am capable. The things that scare the pee right out of you... Try it. Do it. Start It. The more you push yourself to get outside of your comfort zone, the more you will empower yourself to do more and grow in ways you never thought possible. Once you over come the fear of it all, you find out that you are pretty freaking amazing and capable of anything.
It all starts in the mind.
Reset your thoughts and change the trajectory of your life immediately and indefinitely!
You got this! It’s time to flush that “stinking thinking” and replace it with gratitude, confidence, and willingness. Trust me, it will change your life and your mindset.
Nu Epps, Author
Nu shares pages from her personal journal as she recounts some of the lessons and experiences she survived as a brand new entrepreneur. Between the stories, she also shares tips, tricks, and techniques to transform your mind, empower your creativity, and improve your business processes to keep you profitable and sane in your business.
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